How do you tell the difference?

[His voice quiets in the question, but he's honing in on her words and how true they are - his most negative traits all seem to center around being self-centered. Even if he told himself, and believed it himself, that it was all selfless as could be.]

I really loved her - I wouldn't have ever hurt her, not intentionally. You don't do that to people you love. You're supposed to take care of them, right? I never wanted to be some jerkoff who couldn't think outside of himself.